How Can Co-Parents Fairly Share Holiday Time?

Balancing holiday time between co-parents can be challenging. Various strategies are employed to ensure that both parents get quality time with their children during the holidays. Here are some standard methods co-parents use to divide their time fairly.

Alternate Holidays (Even and Odd Years)

One of the most popular approaches is alternating holidays annually. In this arrangement, one parent will celebrate a specific holiday with the children in even years, while the other parent gets the same holiday in odd years. This method ensures that each parent can spend at least one major holiday with their children yearly. By alternating holidays, both parents can enjoy festive moments and create lasting memories with their children without feeling left out.

Split Holidays in Half

Another common approach is splitting the holiday in half, allowing both parents to share the day equally. This arrangement typically involves a detailed schedule, where children might spend the morning and early afternoon with one parent and the evening with the other. For example, the children might have breakfast with one co-parent and dinner with the other on Thanksgiving. This way, both parents can partake in the holiday festivities, and the children benefit from spending quality time with each parent.

Fixed Holidays

Sometimes, it makes sense for one co-parent to always have certain holidays, especially if they have a significant meaning. For instance, if one parent observes specific religious holidays that the other does not, it might be practical for the observant parent to always have those holidays with the children. Additionally, assigning Monday school holidays to the non-custodial parent, who may only have weekends, allows for extended time together, enhancing their bond.

Divide Holidays Based on Regular Visitation

Some co-parents maintain regular visitation schedules, assigning holidays based on the existing parenting plan. This method can fit various parenting schedules, such as 50/50, 60/40, 70/30, and 80/20 splits. However, this approach can lead to an unbalanced distribution of holiday time, potentially causing conflicts and feelings of unfairness down the line.

Co-parenting during the holidays requires careful planning and consideration to ensure fairness and balance. Whether alternating holidays, splitting the day, or assigning fixed holidays, the key is to focus on what works best for the children and promotes a harmonious co-parenting relationship. By exploring and agreeing on a method that suits their unique circumstances, co-parents can create joyful holiday experiences for their children and themselves.

Your Trusted Partner for Fair Holiday Time Sharing

Balancing holiday time between co-parents can be challenging, but JWB Family Law can help you find a fair solution. Our experienced team offers free family law consultations to help you understand your legal rights and obligations. We can assist you in creating a co-parenting schedule that ensures joyful and fair holiday celebrations for everyone involved. Call us at (619) 777-5843 to schedule your consultation today.